All of my services are provided on a mutual aid basis. As such, no direct donation to myself is requested or desired. If you want to compensate someone, I suggest sending money to the following organizations:

• Bread and Roses Law center
• Golden Nugget Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence
• Transgender Center of the Rockies

Presence and Attention

I will come and spend time with an ill or dying person to provide company, attention, and support. Perhaps we go on a wheelchair walk, or I write down some stories from the old days. Maybe I just sit in the room reading aloud, waiting to fetch a drink or adjust a blanket

Sitting Vigil

No one should ever die alone. I will come and sit with a person who is expected to die soon in order that their final moments are not unaccompanied.

Legacy Work

As we near our ends, we often face comprehending what we are going to leave behind.

Example Legacy projects

I haven’t done all of these specifically, ideas from those in the field)

• Quilts made from a grandfather’s flannel shirts given to grandchildren
• A person who had cooked holiday meals for their extended family for decades made a cookbook with all of the important recipes
• audio recordings of important family stories
• A volunteer created a scent box for the family of a mechanic. The volunteer collected a box of tools, bits of his work jacket, and a bottle of the cologne he wore. His family could bring back his memory by smelling the way he smelled when he came home for the day, something his children all remembered with fondness

Spiritual Care

When I say spiritual, I don’t mean to imply anything metaphysical, or the existence necessarily of anything beyond the material plane. Spiritual experience, as I see it, is our experience of connection with that which is beyond ourselves.

At least in the American cultures that I have experienced, we have largely abdicated “spiritual care” to large religious institutions. This is to our profound detriment. As a queer person, I have been robbed of the access to the spiritual home of my youth. Many of us have been denied the spiritual communities in which we feel fulfillment.
I feel we ignore our spiritual needs at our own peril, and am called to help you seek out and meet your own spiritual needs

Practical help

Caretaker Relief

Often, the loved ones of someone who is in the process of dying become overwhelmed by the amount of time needed to keep the dying person comfortable. No one should die alone, but too often the weight of that falls on one or two people. I will come and sit with you or your loved one, giving companionship and taking care of basic needs, so that the caretaker[s] can take some time to recover or attend to pressing needs.

Help around the home

Need a shelf hung or some meal prep done? Grass getting longer than you like it? nothing too mundane, needs are needs are needs and I’m here to help.